How to Make Room For the Sublime in Your Life

How to Make Room For the Sublime in Your Life

If you've ever been awestruck by something you witnessed, and saw the world in a new way afterward, then you've experienced the aesthetically sublime. Turns out, the conditions you need for those experiences happen to be similar to those for a sublime life. 

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How to Cope With Toxic People, Part Two

How to Cope With Toxic People, Part Two

In this follow-up, I propose considering difficult people separately from their deeds. It's how you can approach (and leave) your relationships with them in a wise and compassionate way works for you.

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How to Cope With Toxic People, Part One

How to Cope With Toxic People, Part One

So-called "toxic" people act in opposition to happiness and healthy functioning—theirs and yours. Here, I explore how you can begin to understand and work with such people, and the dangers you face.  

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part Two

Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part Two

In Part One we covered that suspense is a gratifying variation on fear. Now, we dive into four critical differences between the two, and how to start enjoying more of the uncertainty that life brings your way. 

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part One

Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part One

Facing the unknown in your life can be scary. But fear, mixed with delight and hope, produces enjoyable suspense. Here's how to start converting one to the other, so you can enjoy your cliffhanger moments.

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Balancing Independence and Connection

Balancing Independence and Connection

Society's emphasis on independence sometimes minimizes our fundamental connection to each other. Whether you're walking down the street or talking to your partner, every action and non-action affects them, and you.

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Broaden and Build: How Positive Emotions Can Help You Thrive

Broaden and Build: How Positive Emotions Can Help You Thrive

Recent research explores how viewing baby animal pictures helps you be focused and productive. Far from a fluff piece (ha), studies like this one are on the cutting edge of research into how positive emotions can help you thrive.

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Rising to the Challenge of Saying Goodbye

Rising to the Challenge of Saying Goodbye

Saying goodbye to people you like is an inevitable part of life. Your job when you do it is to meet that physical ending with acceptance, and bring awareness to the legacy of the other that endures within you. And then to keep your heart open and soft.

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Self-Esteem and Social Media: Human Drives in an Electronic World

Self-Esteem and Social Media: Human Drives in an Electronic World

When the innate human drive for connection is filtered through social media, some interesting results emerge. Some research reinforces what we know about our social needs, and some may change the way you use social media.

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Emotional Contagion: Connecting by Catching Feelings

Emotional Contagion: Connecting by Catching Feelings

Ever experienced an emotional boost when you encountered a friend with a big smile on her face? If so, it isn’t your imagination; humans are hardwired for attunement with one another. Here's the science of it.

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