Finding Meaning in Everyday Life . . . Where You Least Expect It

Finding Meaning in Everyday Life . . . Where You Least Expect It

I gave a lecture series aboard a cruise ship, helping people find meaning and purpose in their daily lives. Before the trip was over, I’d have found a source of meaning just for me, lying on a remote beach, waiting for me to discover it.

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What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

What a Sensory Deprivation Tank Can Reveal About Facing Difficulty

Was spending a Friday night in a sensory deprivation tank blissful? Not exactly, but it did illustrate the aversion and reactivity that causes us to suffer, and what we can do about it.

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Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

Hurt Feelings: When Are They Too Much?

As good as social connection can be, it also leaves us vulnerable to being hurt by others. Here's how best to cope with it when it happens. Also, how hurt feelings can point to things inside you that could use some attention.

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When You're in a Toxic Friendship: The Healthy Way Forward

When You're in a Toxic Friendship: The Healthy Way Forward

When you're in a toxic relationship with a friend who has an "all-access pass" to you, the pain can cut right to your core. Here's a framework for rationally assessing the situation and moving forward with a minimum of distress. 

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Trying to Get Fit? Don't Neglect Your Mind.

Trying to Get Fit? Don't Neglect Your Mind.

Your mind is an important part of your body, so be sure to include it in your fitness program. Mindfulness meditation provides a wealth of mental and physical health benefits, and helps you achieve whole-life fitness. 

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Why You Should Stop Using the Term “Delayed Gratification” . . . Right Now

Why You Should Stop Using the Term “Delayed Gratification” . . . Right Now

Change or growth require effort now, hopefully for a reward later. But if you call this "delayed gratification," you're making things harder than they need to be. Plus, you're missing the gratification that's right in front of you.

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part Two

Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part Two

In Part One we covered that suspense is a gratifying variation on fear. Now, we dive into four critical differences between the two, and how to start enjoying more of the uncertainty that life brings your way. 

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Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part One

Enjoying Uncertainty: How to Convert Your Fear to Suspense, Part One

Facing the unknown in your life can be scary. But fear, mixed with delight and hope, produces enjoyable suspense. Here's how to start converting one to the other, so you can enjoy your cliffhanger moments.

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Broaden and Build: How Positive Emotions Can Help You Thrive

Broaden and Build: How Positive Emotions Can Help You Thrive

Recent research explores how viewing baby animal pictures helps you be focused and productive. Far from a fluff piece (ha), studies like this one are on the cutting edge of research into how positive emotions can help you thrive.

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